Do you have the best intentions to cut out, or cut back, your go-to “thing” (i.e. eating sweets, drinking wine, texting your ex) but you fall back into that bad habit and end up pissed at yourself?! Why do we self-sabotage over and over again?
I recently learned about “H.A.L.T.” and it has saved me so many times from making a bad decision I was most definitely going to regret later! As I am writing this, I have a lull in my Sunday, and the thought of walking down the street for a glass of wine sounds like such a good idea. But, then I checked in with HALT and decided to make myself a cup of tea and write this blog post instead!
If you are about to do something your future self may not find amusing, ask yourself if you are…
We typically make non-preferred choices when we are one of these. I don’t know how many times I have walked down the street for “one glass of wine” because I was a little bored or lonely, ended up drinking many more than “just one,” only to wake up the next morning upset with myself. Sound familiar?
If you find yourself hankering to do something your future (and highest) self won’t benefit from, maybe try checking in with yourself to see if you fall into one of the HALT categories. If so, consider going for a walk, calling a friend, and/or journal your feelings about why you have the urge to eat an entire bag of Flaming Hot Doritos. Make yourself a healthy snack and lay down and take a nap (it works for 3 year olds…why shouldn’t it work for us later in life?).
The best news is….if your inner child wins and you drink that glass (or bottle) of wine, you eat that entire bag of Doritos, you text that asshole ex, or maybe you spend way too much shopping online…don’t beat yourself up. That is far from productive and only leads to more non-preferred choices. Give yourself some love and know that you can always hit the reset button the next day. We are all human. The last time I checked the synonym for human is not “perfect.” I just looked it up and the definition of human is, “susceptible to or representative of the sympathies and frailties of human nature.” I translate that to mean…we are not unique if we veer off course every now and then. We are normal. We should be proud of ourselves for all the naughty stuff we DON’T do in a day rather than the one or two naughty things we might do.
Focus on the positive and crowd out the negative. Your highest self AND your inner child will love you for it.